What if?

What if?

What if the person you’re struggling the most with is really an angel in disguise?

A while back I read a book called Soul Contracts as research for my writing one of my books. The story goes: There were two men, one who lived on Skid Row, a place known for its large homeless population and people afflicted by addictions and mental health issues. The other was a lawyer who worked in the same area.

Our society would be saying to the the lawyer, “What a great thing you've done. You’ve become a ‘successful’ lawyer and you're a great addition to our society!” Conversely, we would say to the homeless drunk, “What a mess you’ve made of your life!” Blah, Blah, Blah… I could go on with the many judgements we have.

But, what if? From the perspective of soul contracts, the opposite were true? What if, in fact it was the drunk who said to the lawyer before entering into this life, “We will go together and I will be the sacrifice this lifetime so that you can learn compassion.”

This gave me insight and permission to see my mother's and my relationship from a new point of view. What if my mother had said before we came to earth, “We will go together and I will be the sacrifice so that you can learn how to once and for all be done with codependency!” What if?

(In other words, learn to take care of myself and trust that others can do the same.)

Soul Contracts: True or not true. However, what this story did for me was to give me a whole new perspective on a possiblity of why my mom was the way she was and I the way I was. It helped me to let go of my anger, resentment and irritation and make space for love and compassion for us both. I do know that the life my mother lived was not an easy one, and what if, in this lifetime she did it for me?

In your life today, who is the most challenging person that you’re dealing with? What if you had made a soul contract and they were your comrade who said to you, “This lifetime, I will go and be the sacrifice so that you can learn…What?

The importance of self care, of standing up for yourself? That money isn’t everything? That you don’t have to give until you bleed? That you can rest guilt free, do things you love. That you have a right to be happy? That you have a voice and to stand up for the little one inside you? That you don’t have to share everything. That it’s not your responsibility to emotionally caretake anyone but yourself. That its not your job to be sure others don't feel any pain. To set boundaries, guilt free! To feel valued, seen and heard? To trust others are very smart and resourceful and can figure out what they came to learn in this life.

What if? How would your life and attitude change? Would you begin to feel at ease rather than a victim? Would it give you the courage to stand up for YOU? If not for you, can you stand up for the little one inside you that never had a voice?

Note: This is not in leiu of doing the personal journey work around whatever feelings you're having today. It's important that you put words to and feel the anger, resentment, feeling used, not being seen, heard, valued or respected. Whatever you're feeling is real and valid and you need to address that. If you need support contact us. We have many resources here at Evolve to Live.

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